Saturday, April 26, 2014

Getting Expelled from Vacation Bible School

The usual drill each summer is for churches to sponsor Vacation Bible Schools.  Sometimes, the churches run these programs in different weeks; and enterprising parents enroll their sons and daughters in more than one, hoping to get some childless moments.

Mom signed me up in a V.B.S, run by a Baptist Church.  It met for a week between nine and three o'clock and served cafeteria-style lunches.  It was okay, I guess; but a little heavy on the hymns and Bible stories.  Well, we did get to act a few scenes out.  They vetoed a boy and I playing David and Bathsheba, but I was probably not destined for an acting career.

V.B.S. was cool because it put you with other kids.  Most were so-so about religion, despite being Baptists.  I suspect that Baptist mothers needed time away from their whelps, too.

Anyway, there was a boy that I hit it off with.  By Tuesday, we were sneaking kisses on the sly.  Several times, as a matter of fact.

However, during recess one of the old witches that coordinated the program caught us red-handed.  She sent both of us home for the remainder of the session.

Mom was not especially mad that I kissed a boy; but she was counting on those two remaining days!

When another church did a Vacation Bible School, I figuratively had a scarlet letter.  Getting red A's is easy when you're 12 and going to a Baptist Vacation Bible School.

Sunday, April 13, 2014

Changes in Sexual Motivation with Commitment

There's a joke that the most significant substance reducing libido or sex drive in women is wedding cake.

A German researcher, Dr. Dietrich Klusmann from Hamburg-Eppendorf University Hospital, interviewed 530 men and women about their sex lives. 

He found that 60% of 30-year-old women wanted sex "often" at the beginning of a relationship; but within four years of the relationship this figure fell to under 50%, and after 20 years it dropped to about 20%.  In general, the longer a woman was in a committed relationship, the less she desired sex.

However, the proportion of men wanting sex "often" remained at between 60-80%, regardless of how long they had been in a relationship.  

Dr. Klusmann attributed these changes in frequency of desire in men and women as due to evolution.  There may be other factors, though.  Is this a culture thing, or an age thing?

I will admit that I find this a little unsettling.