Friday, February 1, 2013

The Joys of Dry-Humping

Toni Nagy, in the Huffington Post, wrote an article "The Case for Dry-Humping: Why Being Prude is a Feminist Statement."  While it's a sign of the time that the venerable Huffie deigns to discuss this previously forbidden topic, her take on it is old school wet blanket.  Here's her take on it:

"Of course, not all sex has to be about relationships, but denying the connection between emotions and sex is ignoring the complexity. Sleeping with someone makes you feel something. But isn't that okay? If sex were as intimate as a handshake, what would happen to the magic?

"That is why I am an advocate for dry humping. It honors the involvedness of sex, giving you time to actually sort out how you both feel about each other, but still leaves something to build up to. And the likelihood of you feeling like crap because a guy you wiggled around with never called is less then if he actually penetrated your panties. But if you are both attracted to each other, the dry humping session will only make you more so."
  
She seems to view sex as a way of closing the deal; maybe almost to the "if we're engaged, then we can do it" process.  And as a way of acting as a talent scout:

"Yet if you audition people with the dry hump, your restraint will not only benefit you, but your fellow female sisters as well. By being a little prude, you are helping the male species remember that being inside a woman's body is actually a really big deal. In the world of nature, the males dance like Michael Jackson, or kill some another dude just to get into some bird's wings. Going home with someone who bought you a beer is hardly worth letting them inside your body. The harder a guy has to work to get into your pants, the better he will treat the girl wearing them."

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/toni-nagy/dry-humping_b_922377.html

In a lot of ways, she views dry-humping as sort of a consolation prize.  Like giving a loser perfunctory pity sex.

Butm why not view it instead as another, alternative form of intimacy that can be delightful in itself?

Indeed, why not make an effort to make dry humping a primary part of your sex life. It can serve as a “soft third” — a clean version of third base with no nudity or bodily fluids exchanged.   It can either be part of foreplay or the main entree if you are committed to premarital virginity or “taking things slow” or would like an intense interlude when it is not possible to go all the way in making love.  You can get both him and yourself hot while grinding your intimate parts, talk dirty until you are both light-headed, and possibly even have sweet orgasms without fear of STDs, pregnancy, having to reveal negligent bikini grooming, or laundering sheets. It’s the most perfect form of sexual activity ever invented!







6 comments:

  1. Referring to dry-humping as a feminist statement is a very imaginative tour da force. While not unpleasant, it is hardy forceful and assertive. Maybe the Huff Post will give pointers on how to do it assertively.

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  2. Why must it have such an inelegant name?

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  3. A very interesting perspective on this activity which can be quite fun!

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  4. Been there, done that. As Meredith says, it does have an inelegant name, but it does seem to serve a useful purpose, as the article by Ms Nagy discusses. Somehow, I never thought I'd be having a discussion of dry-humping at age 61. Sigh.

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  5. 'even have sweet orgasms'

    Which raises the question, can one little sperm make it through many layers of clothing and keep on going?

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  6. Is wish it had a more appealing name -- it is such a sweet thing that deserves better terminology that that!

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